What is The [Refined] Alpha Male

In the wild, wolf leaders of the pack don’t achieve the alpha position with aggression. They achieve it by mating and starting a family. You can imagine - this takes finesse, skill, confidence, it takes a male who is self-assured and able to connect with the female.

Alphas are successful with women.

This means you need to know how women bond and what they look for. Then, present yourself in a way that draws her to you. You need to refine your self.  You might get there with strategy, or through lifestyle. 

What is strategy? 

> The pickup artist game is a strategy (good for a one-night stand). 

> Putting up dating profiles is a strategy (okay if you have stamina). 

> Making friends and increasing your social circle is a strategy. 

> Finding a passion, a hobby, a purpose, and mastering it is a strategy.

> Getting into the gym and sculpting yourself into a hard body is a strategy (might be good for the initial allure). 

> Building a career so you can improve your status is a strategy (want a real GF or a sugar baby).

> Buying a new car or toys to fill your garage and play with on the weekend is a strategy. 

You might gather, strategy is really only good for one thing at a time, and strategy is not a passive activity; it's hands-on and demanding. It takes resources, money or time.

Work smarter not harder.

Lifestyle applies to the bigger picture. 

Lifestyle is engaging with everything in your world. it’s about your beliefs, habits, activities, who you are and what you have to offer.

Lifestyle is a mindset. 

If you feel like you are capable of finding your dream partner, your dream car, your dream career, then you. It’s that simple. If you think you’re interesting enough to keep a woman interested in you, or if you feel like your bedroom skills will please her, they will. It really is that simple. 

Why? Because mindset finesses your thinking to one of prosperity, abundance, accomplishment and success instead of loss, failure, stagnation.

Mindset can be altered.

You can learn how to be confident, have charisma, charm, be engaging and interesting. If you're here and you want to be there, alter your mindset about who you are and what you have to offer. 

Putting it together | Strategy + Lifestyle 

It’s not about strategy vs lifestyle and picking one to follow relentlessly, hoping you stumble across the path of your soul mate. It takes both strategy and lifestyle if you seriously want to take control of your own success. If you want to master this life – YOUR LIFE – you need a game plan. 

You can do some of the above, a lot of the above, but you need to put it all together. 

If you’re single and you’ve been single for a while wondering what you’re doing wrong; circumstances got in the way; life got in the way; something happened; or didn’t. You need a game plan to set you on a path of intention.

>>>> You need a course of action <<<<

Why I designed the Alpha Male Mindset

I remember advice a business mentor once gave me: if you’ve done it once you can do it again. He was referring to me starting a legit business, entering the rat race, climbing the career ladder, whatever you want to call it, after I'd run a lucrative courtesan service. The same concept applies to life. If you’ve been in a happy relationship, you can do it again. And if you haven’t, it’s time you do. Dating, relationships, they’re the oldest known human behavior. You clearly have some skills or you wouldn't be here, even if they were simply passed on from your ancestors.


We all subconsciously know how to evolve - Alpha Males just do it consciously.

Mating hasn’t really changed, you need to be at the top of your game – mentally, physically, and emotionally to adapt to the natural selection process in the sexual marketplace. What you’ll get here is an insiders handbook. My career, research, and life have been smack-in-the-middle, balls-deep in the sexual marketplace - you can't get more targeted information.

If you want to refine your skills - it's here.

99% of the battle is getting yourself in the right state of mind.

What people are saying ...

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